Eliza Reed, a daughter of Annette de la Renta and Samuel P. Reed, both of New York, was married yesterday to Alexander Lytton Bolen, the son of Barclay and Richard J. Bolen of Huntington, W.Va. Archbishop Theodore McCarrick of the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Newark performed the ceremony at the Kent, Conn., house of the bride's mother and stepfather, Oscar de la Renta.